Normally, when you are angry with someone, after throwing out your anger on him, you feel the fire of anger burning you as much as it burnt him! This means you are overusing your anger. When you act out of your being, you will have the clarity and awareness to use the anger only to the extent that it is needed. Then the anger will not burn inside you or cause guilt within you. The person receiving your anger will also receive only as much as necessary, so he will not beunduly disturbed. When you need to pay someone only ten dollars for a job, will you give them twenty dollars for it? No! Then why do you overpay when it comes to anger? Show only what is needed! Then, there will be no suffering for you or the other. This clarity comes to you when you are centered in your being.